Eye contact is important part of modern communication and relationships between people. Whether it is just making contact, communicating at work, at the pub or in front of your child’s school, you should know how to use eye contact to your advantage. It is possible to read people’s thoughts by analyzingtheir eyesduring a conversation.
Moreover, it is possible to reveal some of your thoughts, desires or even frights to others – just by the way you look. Hopefully, some of the following points will help you get what you want from people or hide what you do not want them to know.
Many studies show that people are lying when they look to the left at the moment of providing you with an answer. If you ask someone to talk about something they have never heard of, they would direct their eyes to the left. In this way, you can conclude that this person is actually trying to come up with a lie.
On the other hand, recalling something that is true will guide your eyes to the right. In addition, people who lie tend to look away more often or make very little eye contact. Nonetheless, you should be careful about this, since it is not an exact science, and consider other parts of body language when making your judgment about someone’s honesty.
Eye movement can indicate that the person you are communicating with is flirting with you. According to the article “ Body Language of Flirting”, we sometimes shift our vision from one eye to the other and to the bridge of the nose. This is called the triangular formation of vision.
As person becomes more interested in another, triangular formation extends to other body parts, such as lips, neck, cleavage etc… If you are looking at someone’s lips, your desire for a kiss will be obvious. Raising eyebrows, fast blinking and dilated pupils also show interest for another person.
Staring eyes and persistent eye contact.
Whenstaring, eyes are wider than usual, attention to something or someone is prolonged and blinking is reduced. In most societies, especially in the West, it is common for eye contact to be regular but not overly persistent. Prolonged eye contact can be the sign of intimidation and can indicate shock and disbelief. Also, if your stare is prolonged, you will be perceived as aggressive or deceptive.
Power gaze and glancing
Power gaze is short and intense. You can practice this gaze if you want to impose your will on someone and send a message that you are in control. However, acceptable duration of a gaze depends on culture, status and gender, so be cautious. The same goes for glancing.
People tend to glance, for example, at a person they are attracted to, or at an object of interest, say, the door if they are bored and wish to leave. Glancing at a person can also mean that you wish to converse with him or her.
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